Honor This

08/2007

A friend of mine (let’s call her “Ruby”) recently returned from a remote location (let’s call it “the Land of the Serious Relationship”). Finding herself suddenly single, I’m finding her suddenly silly.

This “Ruby” is a full-grown woman. She has a solid education; a growing career; a nice car. But the absence of Consistent Love has changed her. I fully expect her to show up with braces and pigtails next time we meet. She’s a seventh grader. She’s full of questions like, “If I kiss him, what do I do?” “Do I have to kiss him again?” “Can I apply a kissing-block to the relationship?” “Am I allowed to date other boys if I kiss one boy?” “Do I HAVE to date? Can’t I UN-date?”

The whole thing makes me want to kiss my man over and over and never stop. But I digress.

Kissing. Therein, lies Ruby’s problem. Lots of boys want to kiss her. Poor girl. Dozens. Hundreds. Thousands. Millions. Poor Ruby.

My advice? Let the Good Guy rise to the top. Be your beautiful self. Awaken the inner Good Guy in every man. If he pays you a compliment, say thank you. If he takes you to dinner, say thank you. If he sends you sweet gifts, say thank you. We should all be so lucky. Every girl should have it so good.

And if he takes the time to prepare a place where you can grow the things you love, the things that matter to you and yours, the things that make the world a better place, say thank you.

Then, throw him to the ground and do very bad things to him over and over again. He earned it. He’s YOUR Good Guy.